Four Star Couples Who Just Might Last

Wouldn’t it be nice to start a relationship already knowing where it will head? Or, would it be better to let nature take its course and allow the relationship to grow, or fizzle, as intended? For many, knowing the outcome of a certain event can help with decisions that need making along the way and for others, the unknown holds an element of intrigue. One thing is for certain though, if you are getting divorced, it would be nice to know what to expect during your case. When you know what lies ahead you can better prepare yourself for the task at hand, whether that means getting your finances in order or simply preparing your emotions.

Along these lines, it is fun to take a look at celebrity relationships, and try to figure out which couples will last and which ones will make tomorrow’s headlines for jumping out of one relationship and into another. An article in the Huffington Post took a stab at trying to forecast which celebrity couples are in it for the long haul. The results spotlight the following four couples:

  • Kanye West and Kim Kardashian
  • Prince William and Kate Middleton
  • Jay Z and Beyonce
  • Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux

This list may come as a surprise to some, but it goes to show that there is no fool proof way to predict how well a relationship or marriage will fare. The simple truth is that a lot of marriages end in divorce and this is just as true, if not more so, when talking about superstars as when looking at the everyday couple. The key to divorce is to figure out what your needs are, and find places where you may be able to compromise. It is rare for one party to end up with everything on their wish list, but that does not mean you should give in too quickly. Our approach is to help you identify your needs, and come up with solutions that are likely to meet those needs. We focus on the things that matter the most to you, and pursue legal remedies that fit the facts of your case. If you have children, we know your kids are your priority and so we make them ours as well. Call today to talk with one of our experienced family law professionals, and start your case off on the right foot.

 

Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today for more information about divorce.

One Star Weighs In On All The Celebrity Divorces

2015, and in particular the summer of 2015, was the year of celebrity divorce. The world of Hollywood saw more than its fair share of divorce during this time, and no one seemed to be immune. There were those that had long marriages (even by regular standards) end, actors and singers were affected, and some of the splits were soon followed by new love interests. With all of this divorce going around, one might wonder if it was “contagious”, and just which mega-star couple would be the next to file. As the divorce rate in Hollywood rose, one star looked at the situation as her opportunity to reassure her fans that everything in her world was “just fine”.

American Idol winner Carrie Underwood talked to Cosmopolitan magazine and had this to say about the state of her marriage, and her thoughts on the rash of celebrity divorces:

  • While everyone around her seemed to be getting divorced, Underwood says “we are good”.
  • Underwood attributes the health of her marriage, in part, to the fact the pair met after achieving fame and fortune.
  • Giving each other the space they need to work, or to do what makes them happy as individuals, is also another key to Underwood’s successful marriage.

In the real world, much like in the celebrity world, not all stories share the same happy ending as Underwood and her husband. Divorce does happen, and when it does it can seem almost unbearable. For some, the thought of ending their marriage is an overwhelming feeling, but with the right guidance you can get through this real life event. We have experience helping people pinpoint the issues that matter the most when getting divorced, and aggressively pursuing remedies that are in line with those issues. Whether you are concerned about who will get the house, what bills get paid by which spouse, where the kids will live, and even who gets the family pet; we can help. Call our office today and speak with one of our qualified family professionals for more information on divorce. Our goal is to develop a strategy that meets your needs, and get the results you deserve.

For more information about marriage and divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Ways A “Work Spouse” Can Ruin Your Marriage

We’ve all heard the phrase “work husband” or “work wife”, used to refer to that one person at the office that you connect with the most; on a professional level. But, sometimes the relationship you have with your work spouse can start to cause problems at home, with your real spouse. When this happens, if steps are not taken to remedy the situation, it is not uncommon for your marriage to end in divorce. Having a work spouse is typical in nearly every line of work, but even more so for celebrities. Stars spend a lot of time together, and so it is not unusual to share a bond with a co-star who also happens to be your co-worker.

Perhaps one of the most well-known “work spouse couples” today is that of Blake Shelton and Gwen Stefani. The pair are co-hosts, along with Adam Levine and Pharrell Williams, popular singing show The Voice. Both Blake and Gwen have recently split from their at home spouses, and are now a couple. While not every relationship that is formed at work spells disaster you’re your marriage, there are three ways a work spouse can ruin your marriage, including:

  • Spending more time with people you work with rather than with your spouse at home can cause distance to grown between you and your family. When too much distance is created, it is hard to build a solid foundation.
  • When you start confiding in a work spouse rather than your real spouse, feelings of betrayal and mistrust often follow. This can be the beginning of the demise of your marriage.
  • When lines are crossed at work, it is hard to bounce back and show affection at home. If you or your spouse feel unloved or undesirable, it is difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.

For those that decide to take their “work spouse” relationship to the next level, a divorce is nearly always in the cards. If a divorce is filed, you will have to sort out issues like child custody and visitation, support, and division of assets. We can help. Call us today to find out more about divorce, and what you can expect if you are thinking about filing for divorce or have been served with divorce papers.

If you have questions about divorce, consult a qualified legal professional. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Financial Blunders To Avoid After Divorce

Once your divorce is final and you are ready to establish yourself as a single force to be reckoned with, one of the most important things to do is make sure your finances are in order. Being able to support yourself and to make decisions about your financial future without a spouse can be hard, but the reward is well worth the effort. A certain sense of accomplishment comes with being able to invest wisely, put something away for a rainy day, and help your kids as they move from high school to college and beyond. In order to do this it is important to have an awareness of your changed financial picture now that you are single, and it is also helps to know what money traps to avoid.

 

Three financial blunders to avoid when you are newly single include:

 

  • Avoid spending more than you have. This seems simple enough, but in practice is a very hard thing for most people. This is true when there are two incomes to rely on for paying the monthly bills and you might find yourself overspending simply out of habit. Try to remember that you alone are responsible for your financial health (especially if you were not awarded spousal support or it has come to an end) and make the necessary adjustments to your lifestyle. Downsizing your home, opting for an older model car, or taking your lunch to work rather than eating out are all good ways to save money when you are single.

 

  • Failing to review your budget and make the changes needed to take into account your status as a one income household. When you get divorced it is a good idea to take stock of what you have and what you need. Doing so will allow you to identify areas where you can cut back and save.

 

  • Allowing your emotions to take over and overwhelm you is also a mistake. We understand divorce is hard, but when you come to terms with the decision it will be easier to think rationally about your future. This includes coming up with a plan for your money that makes sense and is within your budget.

 

Our goal is to reach solutions in your case that allow you a fresh start, and also give you the chance to change. When necessary we suggest enlisting the help of a qualified financial planner, so you can be sure to start your new life off on the right foot.

For more information about divorce and what it means for your finances, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Ten Signs Your Marriage Is Headed For Divorce

There is no sure way to “divorce proof” your marriage, and every relationship is different. There is also no sure way to tell if your marriage will end in divorce when you walk down the aisle, or even in the months and years after saying “I do”. But there are some warning signs to watch out for, and if any of these are present in your marriage it might be a good idea to find a way to fix what’s gone wrong, or decide to dissolve your union.

Ten signs your marriage is headed for divorce include:

  • You are unable to tolerate your spouse. This should be viewed differently from loving your partner or even being “in love” with your mate. Tolerance is the ability to love a person while accepting their flaws and even in the middle of conflict. If you often find yourself wishing yourself in a different room or even geographic location than your spouse, your relationship may not have what it takes to make marriage stick.
  • Being unable to see the good in your spouse, or in his or her intentions. Not every action undertaken is done with a hurtful purpose and if you are unable to see that your spouse is putting forth an effort it is not likely your marriage will last.
  • Failing to give your spouse emotional and physical support, or even being unable to pay a sincere compliment.
  • Putting your own needs or those of your kids before your spouse’s needs is a sure sign your marriage is headed down a dark path.
  • Trying to make changes to who your spouse is fundamentally, such as by forcing certain religious beliefs or engaging in behavior that requires your spouse to agree with your every thought.
  • Clamming up and failing to communicate about the things that bother you, or expecting your spouse to read your mind. Without communication there can be very little chance that two people will ever truly understand the needs of the other.
  • Engaging in extra marital relationships.
  • Allowing your spouse to carry the weight of the household responsibilities. When people feel taken advantage of it is hard to find ways to show respect to another. Without mutual respect for what each party brings to the table it is hard to make a marriage work.
  • Waiting too long to discuss important issues, which can lead to resentment and anger.
  • Feeling insignificant or that you are living a separate life from your spouse. While it is important to maintain your own identity, it is equally as important to have an identity as a couple.

If you have tried to make your marriage work but are not able to do so, it might be time to call for help. Contact us to learn more about divorce, and whether the time is right for you to file.

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Three Things To Pay Attention To During Divorce

The decision to get divorced is followed by the need to make several other decisions. The divorcing couple will need to figure out who will have primary custody of the children or whether the kids will split their time equally between mom and dad, which bills are paid by which party, how to divided marital property, and any other issue unique to the situation. In most cases these important issues are not resolved between the litigants, which is why the judicial system is needed. The Court bears the responsibility for making final orders on all of the things that arise during a case, and it is the job of each party’s attorney to advocate for what is in the best interests of their client. In order to make sure the final results in your case meet your needs it is crucial to fill your attorney in on all of the facts.

When discussing the issues in your divorce that require resolution, pay special attention to these three things:

  • Property division and how certain pieces of property are characterized. If there are some things you have your heart on keeping because they were gifts, a family heirloom, or something you owned prior to getting married you need to make sure that item is classified as your separate property. Generally speaking these types of things are yours to keep, and not subject to distribution by the Court. You may be required to show that a certain piece of property is your separate property and that it was not part of the marital estate in order to keep the item, and this could require a fact intensive inquiry into when and how you acquired the property. It may also be necessary to show that you have maintained the property separately and not commingled it with other things acquired jointly with your spouse.
  • Financial freedom is an important part of standing on your own two feet after divorce and for some cases this means spousal support is necessary for a period of time. If this is your situation it is essential that you make your needs known when developing a case strategy. Failure to resolve financial issues can leave you holding the bag for jointly acquired debts, or without the means needed for your daily expenses.
  • Child custody and visitation as well as how much child support should be paid must be addressed. If you have older children who are expressing a parental preference as far as where they live most of the time, the Court might take this information into consideration when deciding custody. If your kids are younger, you will have to be their voice and ask for an arrangement that makes the most sense for their well-being.

If you are able to articulate the issues that matter the most to you, your case will go much more smoothly. When meeting with an attorney, be sure to provide all of the information you have, so the lawyer has a complete picture of your needs.

For more information about what to expect during divorce, contact us for an appointment today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your initial visit.

19 Ways To Move On After Divorce…And More

The reality TV watching world was shocked as the summer of 2015 started, when it was revealed wholesome reality star Josh Duggar was the center of a scandal that involved claims he molested underage girls, some of whom are his sisters. The show that made the Duggar name a household term has since been cancelled, but people still can’t seem to get enough of the family. It seemed the world waited with baited breath to find out whether Josh’s wife would file for divorce, and now all the attention has turned to some of the Duggar sisters. This turnabout just goes to show that even in the midst of a storm, there are ways to move forward.

With no divorce pending for Josh and Anna Duggar, the TLC network is set to air a show starring two of Josh’s sisters. Jill and Jessa Duggar are slated to star opposite their husbands on a series that follows these two Duggar sisters and their families. Even though this story does not include a divorce, it does show how to move on after a difficult time in life. It is unlikely that the average citizen would be given this type of opportunity, but there other ways to pick yourself back up after what seems like devastation. Because divorce is seen as a devastating event by some, here are some tips on things you can do to regroup after divorce:

  • Reconnect with old friends.
  • Take a vacation, alone.
  • Discover a new hobby, or restart a hobby given up during marriage.
  • Volunteer your time to a local charity or organization that is in line with your personal beliefs.
  • Redecorate your house, taking care to pack away sentimental items for your kids from your years as a family, but also allowing yourself to start fresh with things suited to your personal taste.
  • Get a pet.

You can also take advice from a trusted friend or family member, or consider going to visit a counselor. Many times a fresh perspective is all you need to help get through a rough patch, and before you know it you are back on your feet. We can help by making sure the terms of your divorce enable you to start fresh, without dependence on your former spouse. For help, call our office today.

For more information about divorce, contact our office. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Putting Divorce In Reverse, Celebrity Style

Every day there seems to be a news report about a celebrity break up or a reconnection. The world of celebrity romance is intriguing, and sometimes the public just can’t get enough of their favorite superstars. Whether the news is related to a birth, a marriage, a divorce, or a new film those fascinated with all things Hollywood gobble up every bit of information they can find on the rich and famous. When the headlines scream “Divorce!” it is usually just a matter of time before a well-known couple moves on to new love interests, or decides to give their union one more try. Depending on how you perceive the star in question, your opinion about their romantic choices may give you hope, or reconfirm your opinions about marriage and divorce.

One couple that most everyone seems to be rooting for though is Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. And if recent reports are accurate the couple may be on the road to reconnection. Here are a few of the reported facts:

  • Ben and Jen have been spotted out and about lately, causing the gossip mill to work overtime and speculate that the couple is reuniting.
  • During one of their more publicized “dates” Ben was seen “acting like a gentleman” to Jennifer and the report also includes information that she was dressed to impress.
  • Shortly after one of these dates, the rumors began coming out that the divorce has been put on hold.

Of course the only two people that know whether they will end up divorced or being able to work out their issues are Ben and Jennifer. The same is true for every case, even one where the parties are not superstars. You do have the right to put your case on hold, but our advice is to do so with caution. Unless both the husband and wife are willing to give a 100% effort to the marriage, attempts at reconciliation usually falter. This is not to say couples have not been able to overcome seemingly impossible hurdles, but it does take a lot of hard work. Most times it is best to engage the assistance of a qualified therapist or counselor, and it can even help to keep an attorney on hand for answers to legal questions when they arise.

For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

Three Things That Aren’t What They Seem During Divorce

There are a lot of pre-conceived notions about what happens when a couple files for divorce. For starters, most people think that the kids will stay with their mom unless she is shown to be an unfit parent, that the wife keeps the home, and that dads get visitation every weekend and alternating holidays. That may have been the case in the 1950’s, but the landscape for divorce looks very different today. More and more often dads are being awarded primary custody and in some cases are even granted spousal support from their ex-wife. The changes that are taking place in today’s divorces definitely lead to the conclusion that the way things were are not the way things will always be, and it pays off to have an experienced family law professional by your side to help navigate the ever changing divorce law waters.

Taking a look at a popular celebrity duo gives us a little more insight into how things are not always as they appear. Gwen Stefani recently answered a question for Ellen DeGeneres on how Blake Shelton “popped the question”. In case you hadn’t heard though, the two are not headed down the aisle. As it turns out, DeGeneres was referring to the hit show the pair co-host, The Voice, and was having a bit of fun with Stefani with her word choice. That said, there are some things to be aware of when going through a divorce, because things can appear one way but in fact be the opposite. Here are some examples:

  • Assets can be hidden, so don’t take a report of financial condition for face value. It is in your best interest to investigate when you believe your spouse is concealing assets.
  • Equitable does not mean the same thing as evenly. The Court will divide property equitably, and too many litigants take for granted that this means evenly. The truth is that the division of property is done in a way the Court considers “fair” and that does not always mean each party walks away with half of the assets.
  • Visitation schedules can change, and when the circumstances warrant a change it is best to be flexible. While having a regular schedule in place helps you to manage your daily obligations, there are bound to be times a deviation is needed. If you are able to remain open to being flexible about visits when your spouse makes a request, you can expect the same in return.

Divorce is not easy, but it is also not the end of the world. Call us today for more information about divorce, and what to expect during your case.

For more information about divorce, call us today. Let us put our experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.

 

 

One Way To Keep The Kids Happy In Divorce

By and large the biggest concern of most divorcing parents is how the new family dynamic will impact their children. This is also an issue the Court puts foremost when entering orders in a divorce case, and the general rule is that decisions are made with the best interests of the children taken into consideration. What this means for you is not the same as what it might mean for a friend or family member. So, in order to make sure the plan put in place in your case does not harm your children, you have to be vocal about your kids’ needs. It is also helpful to make every effort to work well with your ex-spouse for the sake of your children. There are several things you can do to make sure your kids are not exposed to the dark side of your split, including keeping disagreements between the adults and avoiding using the children as pawns or leverage for your own gain. For those that are able to make this transition smoothly, the kids usually end up happy and no worse for the wear.

One way to keep your kids happy during, and even after, your divorce can be seen from a celebrity couple that has been getting a lot of press lately. Hilary Duff has made headlines about her split from Mike Comrie, and the news is good. The pair was recently seen enjoying a meal together with their son. The benefits to getting along with your ex, as seen through the eyes of your children, include:

  • Kids learn by the behavior they witness, and when they see their divorced parents getting along as friends it makes it easier to emotionally accept the new family structure.
  • When children see their divorced parents resolving their differences with respect and cooperation, valuable life lessons regarding conflict resolution are taught.
  • Kids of divorce can often times feel they are to “blame” for their parents’ split. But, when the kids witness their parents working together for the benefit of the children these harmful emotions are not given a chance to surface and manifest in undesirable behavior.

The trick is to figure out what works for you and your former spouse. If your kids are older, it helps to include them in important decisions. If you are considering divorce and have questions about how it will impact your kids, call our office. We can help you come up with solutions that fit your family.

 

For answers to your questions about marriage and divorce, consult one of the trained family law professionals in our office. Let us put our valuable experience to work for you. Call The Sampair Group in Phoenix and the West Valley today to schedule your appointment.